Dear Judy,
My best friend of 20 years is dying of cancer, and I am very upset. But unfortunately a quite selfish issue has clased with my friend’s untimely sickness.
My friend wants me by his side during his last months, and I have been there regularly. But due to the economy — and perhaps my own [...]
“Dear Judy, Please tell your readers — especially the medical professionals among them — that you don’t necessarily lose your IQ when you lose your health,” a reader writes.
I know just what this man means. The carelessness and rudeness of medical staff these days, especially in hospitals, is impossible to ignore. Patients, as this letter-writer also [...]
Dear Judy,
First, of all thank you for this very much needed service. I just wish I’d had the opportunity to access good advice during the periods of my life when I lost loved ones. Nevertheless, I am glad to have somewhere to turn now for ideas on how to deal with my own end of [...]
I know. Switching doctors is about the last thing you want to do when you’re seriously ill. You’re weak, you’re scared, and you’re short of time. Also, how do you know the next physician will be an improvement?
So it’s not a task you should undertake if your grievances are minor — and by “minor” I [...]
Dear Judy,
I never thought I would write anybody about something so personal, but my father is going crazy. We all expected him to die pretty soon — I can deal with that, and so can my sisters and our mother. But he’s turning into a raving lunatic: he’s been diagnosed as having infarct dementia, caused [...]
Dear Judy,
My sister-in-law, aged 50, was diagnosed with adenocarcinoma 8 weeks ago, and now has just a few days to live. My brother and I love our own — and each other’s – children very much, but we’re just not that plugged into each other’s life. Also, we live on opposite coasts.
I’d fly over there in [...]
Dear Judy,
I read a very interesting question, posted on your site maybe 3 weeks ago about a guy who works with someone whose wife is dying — and the colleague doesn’t know whether to mention it or not when the two men run into each other in the elevator or before meetings.
I have the exact opposite problem. [...]
Dear Judy,
My mother had breast cancer some two years ago, and from what I was told, especially by her, everything bad was stopped in its tracks. I happen to live in Sacramento. She lives on the East Coast. We speak about twice a week, and we see each other on big holidays and nice occasions like [...]
Dear Judy,
I’m married to a very good guy, and I can’t say that was always the case. Ten years ago, I left an abusive first husband, who also happens to be the father of my two grown daughters (and the grandfather of our three small grandchildren).
My ex is dying. My grown daughters visit him frequently, [...]
Dear Judy,
My brother is a terminally ill cancer victim. To date no one has actually told him his condition is terminal, so he believes that after therapy he will be going home, and perhaps eventually back to work.
Is it unfair to my brother that no one has given him the bad news? Is it doing [...]
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Posted on January 24th, 2009