• Advice

    Posted on July 13th, 2009

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    Pain-in-the-Neck Mourner

    Dear Judy,
    Okay. My first cousin has had a hard life. Maybe a very hard life. Abusive father who always belittled her (my uncle — naturally) and a nutty younger brother whom she had to support for years until he died. Which broke her heart.
    Our problem? (here I’m talking about the rest of our entire family). She feels [...]

  • Advice

    Posted on January 13th, 2009

    Written by Judy

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    Cousin with Tongue Cancer Tells Me to Hold My Tongue

    Dear Judy,
    My cousin was diagnosed yesterday with squamous cell cancer of the base of the tongue — which (I’ve googled this) I know isn’t necessarily fatal. But the doctor we saw, who wasn’t very helpful, told us, after a few nods and grunts, that it was “advanced” and required “immediate surgery” as well as radiation.
    My [...]

  • Advice

    Posted on October 29th, 2008

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    After Tongue Cancer — Do I Make My Nieces Rich?

    Dear Judy,
    I’d really appreciate it if you wouldn’t use my real name or even where I’m from at the bottom of this email. I’m a 60-year-old woman who’s just been through surgery for tongue cancer. I think I’m okay and the surgeon got whatever he needed to get (mainly part of my tongue). I have difficulty speaking as a [...]